Sometimes we make the mistake of believing one part of us, usually an uncomfortably felt part or experience, is all of us. Labeling reinforces that. Depressive, victim, misfit, and even nervous Nellie are such labels. I think Nellie was a skittish horse, but I digress.
We may feel depressed, victimized, rejected, or anxious but that’s a far cry from an identity. These are only experiences that become part our lives. In fact within these kinds of negative experiences are also strengths. Those prone to depressive states tend to evaluate situations more accurately, research says. Those who have been victimized usually have unsurpassed courage existing along with the pain. Part of the healing process is recognizing and using that courage.
Those rejected are usually rejected for thinking and/or acting differently than the mainstream, which says a lot about the blindness of the mainstream. Creative thought, innovation, and the best gifts to humanity come from those who tend to think and/or act differently.
Finally, those prone to anxiety have a prudent cautiousness just waiting to be developed. That’s what fear and anxiety exists for, to nourish holy prudence.
We all have a bazillion parts and God integrates and transforms each and every one, even those experienced as “negative,” so we can become a most beautiful and unique vessel for the Spirit of God. So let’s not sabotage God by defining ourselves (or another person) by one particular thing.
“Through Him the whole structure is held together and grows into a temple sacred to the Lord; in Him you also are being built together into a dwelling place of God in the Spirit.” Ephesians 2:21-22
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