The recollection of an injury… adds to our anger, nurtures our sins and hates what is good. It is a rusty arrow and poison for the soul. It puts all virtue to flight. –St. Francis of Paola
We all suffer slights, accusations, dismissals, and under appreciations. The tendency is to blame the perceived offender: a situation, person, event, or memory for the resulting emotional pain. If you struggle with depression and anxiety the tendency is also to exaggerate the helplessness and guilt. In any case, such brooding only hurts ourselves. We have trouble concentrating, completing tasks efficiently, and generally enjoying the things of the present. It’s difficult to stop brooding especially if we already have minds that tend to be pessimistic. So we have to start with the simple.
Do something concrete and physically active, something that will give a small sense of accomplishment. Go grocery shopping, clean the house, take the dog for a walk, or call a friend. We cannot change the past but we can delve into the present, where we should be anyway.
If this doesn’t help we have to boost our energy so we can fight. Sleep, at night. Research shows that proper sleep helps just about every emotional and physical problem humans experience. Also, since having a virus, being stressed, and/or having a difficult problem can lay the foundation for brooding address those. Examples are discord with family members, job issues, and being overwhelmed with household tasks. If you can’t do that yourself get outside help.
Believe it or not, boredom is rich earth for growing negative thoughts. Putting yourself in front of screens all day or drinking is not a solution. Try volunteering, job hunting, or if at home with small children, going to parks where you can meet other mothers/fathers.